A couple days ago, I watched on youtube “The Most Painful Thing I have Told”. They shared about their feeling after they heard the unexpected news from other people. Based on the video, I got things being able to understand or learn. From now on, I have to watch and think about my language before I say it to people. In addition, I have to stop judging people because I have never been in their shoes before. I know nothing about their pains, experiences, feelings, etc. It can be concluded that I don’t have a right to judge others. They might be better and brilliant compare to me.
In this story, I would like to tell you guys about the most painful thing I have ever heard in my life. To be honest, it is kind of difficult for me share this experience but I dare myself. I hope this story can change people perspective about others. Although it is a joke, sometimes your words may hurt other people feelings.
So, what is the most painful things I have ever heard in my life?
You Are Not My Child!
When I was a child, I was not a good kid. I broke all the rules made by my parents. I loved to climb a tree, played with the mud, and loved to swear. Things that’s hated the most by my mother were things I loved to do. I had tried to convince my other that’s okay to play with boys, cats, and dogs. To obey all the rules she made is the most important things. Oh, Dude! It was so difficult for me.
If I had done something wrong, my mother would hit me. Sometimes, she grabbed my clothes and locked me outside the house in the evening. Naked. It sounded irrational, but it was true. It happened when I was 6 years old. At that time, I melted down because my mother did not let me to stay at my brother house. All of my clothes were dirty, mud is everywhere. Then, she got angry to me. She kept the doors locked until 11 pm.
I cried like a river and I hoped my father would help me to fight my evil mother but he did nothing. He just drank a cup of coffee and ate some biscuits. Then, I started to hate my father.
When my mom gets angry, she always say: “You are not my biological child. You are adopted when you were a baby. You are attended child. Please leave and fuck yourself”
It is really hurt. Years passed, but it still linger in my heart. It seems like she really hates me and does not expect my existence in her life.
For me, verbal abuse is worse than physical. To be honest, both of them (Physical and verbal abuse) are not cool at all. So, please watch your language because every single word you say may hurt other people feeling. Stop judging because you never been in their shoes. You don’t know them. You will not understand how difficult the situation is.